Brick by Brick


Whether you’ve taken the dive back into society or you are holding back in lieu of a vaccine date, no doubt there exists new dimensions to old dynamics. Some things have probably altered considerably or even faded into the background, while others have presented themselves for attention front-and-center. In essence, writing, editing, marketing, platform-building and dealing with everything else can seem a bit much – given the state of the day.

So what to do? Throw up our hands and wait for a better season? Of course not! But it may be time to learn how to better pace ourselves. I was commiserating with a writer friend about the losses of particular career opportunities such as in-person events (lost nine of those), conferences (two of those) and the general mind malaise that crops up unexpectedly (very different from traditional writer’s block, right?). Her words of comfort took me by surprise.

“Well, most of us are going back to square one and starting over together!”

Hmmmm….does that matter? By embracing the idea of starting over, with a relatively clean slate, was she saying it could (dare I say it?) be an exciting, even invigorating experience, to step outside of our old methods? Could we thrive in this chaotic season by learning, initiating new processes and communally networking with others to advance our writing and marketing endeavors? I believe she was…and I’ve taken the hint. But the real question is: HAVE YOU?

No writer can ever hope to become an expert at anything overnight, but it is a VERY realistic expectation to simply place one block of learning and application upon another. We can come back better and stronger – brick by brick together! If you have any questions I can help with, let me know!

Flying Over Hurricanes

We all have at least one thing in common. Off and on, change happens to everyone – pandemic or not. So, change is not the real issue, when it comes to pressing in and moving forward, is it? Perhaps, it has more to do with our navigations.

The other day, I just happened to read a short piece on airplanes. And …I think, inadvertently, I learned a life lesson. Turns out thunderstorms are a huge issue where all things aeronautic are concerned. Flying through certain cloud formations has historically caused severe damage – even to the point of breaking structures apart in mid-air! That’s why our flights get delayed and cancelled. If a reroute is unavailable, air control chooses wisely to wait until a storm system passes. (Note to self: NEVER complain about this again!) 

Life, these days, can tend to feel much like we are the plane attempting to fly inside all types of weather. There is the heaviness of the racial discrimination cloud, the thunder of political upheaval and the constant crosswinds involved in flying through a Covid19 world.

Sometimes, we are able to reroute and still get to our destinations. In other instances, there are things in our lives that have been cancelled. I believe what is most important is the fact that we are still getting out there on the runway for takeoff every day.

A final tidbit to consider…while we may be forced to participate in some aspects of change, we can opt out of others. Wisdom arrives in recognizing those moments. Hurricanes do not impede plane travel in many instances. The pilot simply adjusts his/her altitude and flies OVER. 

May you find yourself able to navigate as well as the planes in the coming days….and if possible, at every opportunity, may you gather your altitude and soar!

Special Note: I’m very excited to announce a new workbook that is set to publish before the end of 2020. It’s been my pleasure, as a life coach, to create a self-guided coaching workbook called, Hey Wait a Minute…I Didn’t Ask for This! More details to come through social media announcements.

119 Opportunities

In my opinion, it is extremely important to remain positive about everything. I don’t always succeed, but I work really hard at keeping the mindset of moving forward into continual green pastures. I know…color me Pollyanna (for those who don’t remember or never knew….she’s a fictional character known for finding something good in ANY situation).

That being said, I’ve managed to cultivate friendships in the same vein. I surround myself with people who genuinely believe our next beautiful moments are just over the horizon…..hence…119 opportunities.

Recently, I was challenged by a friend to find three things that I have not fully engaged in….things I truly want to accomplish….and to focus on them for the next 119 days. In case you haven’t thought about it just yet, that is exactly the number of days left in the year 2020. I’m challenging YOU to do the same. We have 119 opportunities to do something that really matters….maybe not to the world…..or even to anyone else….three things born strictly out of personal value to the proverbial me, myself and I. Will you join me?

How wonderful would it be? Imagine saying (if only to ourselves), “I actually put the items that inhabit my daily thoughts on the front burner of my life for 119 days!” If you have even a bit of Pollyanna inside, type, “I accept the challenge!” into the comment section below. I promise to keep you in my prayers for the rest of the year…and I secretly hope you will choose to do the same for me.

Pondering Tomorrow

Gee whiz!! Covid, quarantines, financial losses, miscellaneous other failures, hurricanes and fires! The other day, I even had a friend announce to our virtual book club that she wouldn’t be surprised to see zombies sauntering up her driveway! Of course she was joking, but I had to agree that looking through current lenses can all seem pretty bleak.

Thankfully, we don’t have to be that kind of person. I refuse to believe that difficult seasons won’t end at some point. I refuse to believe that we, as highly competent people, can’t rise….or even re-rise…to come back stronger down the road.

I started my life inside of a difficult family bubble. AND I ROSE. Maybe you did too? The history lesson for most of us has been clear…even in the midst of most anything, we can find a way to see past the ugliness to something beautiful and tangible. I believe that’s what writers excel at…..finding this path….writing our way out of the proverbial fog. We are really good at searching, sifting and signifying what others can read as encouragement, entertainment and education.

Keep writing – both for yourself and others! But take time out, now and again, to emulate my friend, Norman, pictured below. Look out the window, soak up the sunshine that surpasses our circumstances….and imagine a better tomorrow!

Entertaining Enrichment

I’m not one to do many things without thinking my actions through beforehand. But, we’ve all heard something similar: “You’re a writer. You have to market. Nobody is going to do it for you!” And, unfortunately, those are all true statements. So, like most everyone else, I bumbled through the motions, until I had the bare minimum completed. I established social media accounts. I created a website. Mischief managed! End of story!

Or is it? Honestly, it wasn’t until I paired myself with a marketing accountability partner that I realized just how little effort I was applying to the process. The biggest secret about marketing is that it remains a secret! What works for me may not work for someone else. It’s why everyone is so darn busy consistently trying new things. And it’s also why enrichment comes into play.

Enrichment, put simply, is improving the quality or value of something. And I discovered a number of ways I could enhance every single marketing outlet. I took the time to click through everything, on every site, learning and adding. I snuck a peek at the authors I love to see what buttons they were accessing and using to their advantage. There’s no harm in parroting what someone successful has done! A tweak here, a bio adjustment there, a pic update and even the addition (or posting consistency) of a blog and marketing presence starts to stand out in ways it didn’t before. When is the last time you took an objective look at your stuff? Maybe you should set aside the idea of something new this week and entertain the idea of enrichment. It just might pay off!

Posturing for Change

Okay. You’d have to live under a rock not to notice that there is almost nothing we did back in February 2020 that can be done the same way in August 2020. That goes for writers too!

For example….virtual everything!

It looks great on the advertising, right? BUT I’VE NEVER DONE VIRTUAL TEACHING! So, in pondering that fact, I realized there are probably a lot of you who are also standing at the bottom of the I’ve-never-done-that-mountain as well. Let’s encourage each other! We can do this! All we need are a few guidelines:

First, we have to go back to school – whether it be for Canva, Google, ZOOM, Instagram, Facebook or whatever. And honestly, we should remain open to learn what we can about ALL of it. How else will we know what works best for us? This is the time to snoop around and see what everybody else is doing!

Second, we are going to have to develop technological habits that include proper lighting, background, posture and knowledge about any equipment that creates a suitable representation of who we are as authors. Network, network, network. There will always be those ahead of us and those behind.

And finally, most importantly, we have to allow ourselves and others the grace of a learning curve. By the end of August, I will have done many things I’ve never done before. I’m absolutely sure I’ll make a few mistakes along the way. But, also, I’m (albeit clumsily at times) posturing for the change that has been thrust upon us. I’m attempting to reside inside the space of earnestness, humility and open mindedness. Is it time for you to do the same?